I thought about a post I saw on Twitter when I came across this blog post entitled, “And Just when you think it’s all not worth it“.
I read a post on Twitter from a writer who just published her book but is struggling with marketing because she is uncomfortable with promoting her own work. I can relate, it’s one of the reasons I tried to go through a publishing company to publish my book, they would do the promoting for me.
Being an introvert it’s a challenge putting myself out there. I’m not assertive and I prefer to stay in the background. Even though these statements may be true it doesn’t have to hold me back in life.
For instances, I am interested in ideas and what other people think is boring. I am a detail-oriented thinker and examine every decision from every angle. It’s difficult getting stuck in the analysis of paralysis as and an adult, but as a kid it’s it wasn’t so good either.
Growing up I was a nerd. And, I don’t mean “nerd” as it is typically used. I mean I was a nerd who was unpopular and who didn’t fit in. I was always saying the wrong thing, acting the wrong way trying to fit a certain mold in order to gain the approval of my peers. My feelings were easily hurt, and I seemed to care about things that the other kids around me did not—like words, literature and history.
Because my adolescence years was such a struggle, I learned how to get through it by going into “survival mode.” I felt since I was an outcast everything about me was weird—the way I dressed, the things I said. When the teacher asked for the answer to a question, even if I was sure I knew the answer, I kept my mouth shut. As an introvert, this came instinctively to me anyway.
I believe that a lot of your writers had childhoods similar to mine, most are still recovering from the years in which they felt rejected, ridiculed, even into adulthood. I believe that as writers, when writing and putting our content out there, still have to battle with the past.
And these are the reasons I struggle with marketing. Not because “I’m shy.” It goes far beyond that. It’s because I battle with still seeing that kid that was rejected in school. I still deal with feeling the effects of not “fitting in my family” and never, ever feeling understood. I am still processing what it means to be a writer, intuitive, self-assured. Can you relate? It may be hard for us to get comfortable and secure in promoting our own work, but we can make the choice to keep learning, keep growing, even if we make mistakes along the way, we learn by trial and error. That’s what Abraham did. He had to go to a place that God would show him through trial and error.
I think it’s safe to assume that you have gone through much worse than learning how to market a book and God has brought you out on the other side.