The strong ask for help

Everyone needs help, especially entrepreneurs. I’ll be honest, I’m not good at asking for help, but I want to change that. As someone who wants to start a business, I can no longer define myself as someone who doesn’t ask for help. If I was a betting woman, I would bet that I’m certainly not alone in my reluctancy. What makes us so fearful? In my case, I have always been guarded due to the fear of rejection or judgment and I would fear that someone would belittle or downplay what I’m asking help for. I want to get to a place where there is zero fear of asking anyone in my community of faith, friends of friends, people I just met in social settings.

We often can feel exposed when we ask for help, but the reward far outweighs the discomfort. The Word of God tells us that there is safety in a multitude of counsel (Provers 11:14). When you surround yourself with kingdom-minded people you will receive a variety of answers that comes from the Word and Godly wisdom. All help is not good help. Sometimes when I asked for help in the past I was steered in the wrong direction. Ask the Holy Spirit to guide you to the right person. Looking back on some of my decisions, came from people who gave me advice from their own subjectivity and not wisdom. I wished I would have demonstrated courage and said thanks but not thanks and let them take it however they wanted to take it, if it meant being angry with me then so be, at the end of the day I’m the one that has to live with the decisions I make.

With seeking counsel from different people, you can filter through the answers and benefit from different perspectives. Side Note: When I talk about seeking Godly wisdom I’m talking about when it comes to your personal live decisions. For instances, someone who does not have a relationship with God could be a great mentor for you in business. As I get older, I realize how important it is to seek help when needed. You get overwhelmed trying to do it all yourself. People like to help one another. It makes them feel good to be needed. So, go ahead and ask for help as often as you need to. People will be flattered, and you will be amazed at what you learn.

Published by: Kim Petitt

As a person living with a disability challenge is part of my life. I struggled with my identity and I recognize that I still have insecurities to face, but that doesn't mean I can't walk in everything God has purposed me to walk in despite my insecurities. Because of the nature of my condition and physical disability, God's grace is evident in my life everyday and I find strength in the word of God that says in Philippians 4:13 "I can do all things through him who gives me power". (CJB).

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6 thoughts on “The strong ask for help”

    1. When we are looking for advice or even when we’re not there is always someone ready to give it to us from business, raising your kids to marriage. Other people may have experience or insight but as you stated discernment is so important.

      People always speak from some concern and I’d like to know if they’re speaking from a concern that serves my best interest or what agenda or bias that may be driving their advice.

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  1. Beautiful point!
    Fear and pride tend to be the things that keeps us from asking for help. Asking for help when we truly need it, from God or other people (depending on the situation) is a great way of being humble to the fact that we are not strong enough to do everything on our own.

    I also wanna point out that your blog seperates the word “demon-strated”, and it facinates me that it is composed of demon and strate, “strate” being defined in many different ways one of them being; “one of several parallel layers of material arranged one on top of another (such as a layer of tissue or cells in an organism or a layer of sedimentary rock)”

    thank you for sharing ^^,


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